Your Feelings Matter
Stop for just for a moment. You surely have a moment. Take a deep breath, put your hand on your heart, and ask yourself, "What am I feeling?"
When is the last time you asked yourself that? How often do you deliberately and consciously connect with the feeling part of yourself, your heart center, your intuitive awareness, your emotions, your compassionate wisdom? Sure, you do it all the time for other people in one way or another. But how do you really connect with yourself?
This is an issue that comes up time and time again in my sessions with others. And it's something I clearly need to work on myself. So many of us, especially those of us who do any kind of spiritual work, have taken on the role of the giver, the healer, the bridge between our clients' physical, spiritual and emotional selves, which is a beautiful thing. But when it is done at the expense of our own inner awareness, we can manifest all sorts of issues which try to bring our attention to what we need.
How often do we negate those needs? How often do we make our feelings and emotions less important than those of the people around us? We push those feelings aside, we tell ourselves they don't matter, that we shouldn't be feeling them. So where does that energy go? Your emotions are like rocket fuel to your energy, that's why many of us find it so easy to pick up on the emotions of others. So if you're not acknowledging, facing, feeling and validating your own emotions, where does that energy go?
It gets stuck in your energy field and sometimes in your physical body. You start to feel drained and empty, and sometimes even sick. And then your ability to be there for others is diminished.
Repeat after me: "My feelings matter. My emotions matter. If they are showing up as part of my incarnated journey, they are sacred and they have something to teach me. When I shrink an aspect of myself down in importance, I shrink all of myself and then I attract people and circumstances which reflect that feeling of smallness and irrelevance."
You're not the small child who was once told not to cry. It's OK to cry. You're not the ultra-enlightened being who never gets angry, or annoyed, or hurt. It's OK to feel those things. You're experiencing this life as human, which involves all of those feelings and emotions. And once you allow yourself to feel them and they show you what you need to be shown, they will be allowed to dissipate and move on.
Write it down, speak it, sing it, do an interpretative dance, make an emotional clay pot. Do anything that allows your feelings to matter. Because they do, and so you do.
